Ah, "Teen Love"

In communications with other mothers, my age and younger, it is a common trend for 'baby daddy drama' and other like conversations to be the main topic. Here is the deal on that: Don't air your dirty laundry, especially on a social networking site! Do you really want the entire world to know every aspect of your relationship?

First things first. Typically whenever you get pregnant at a young age, the marriage/relationship is not going to work out. Getting married simply because you are pregnant is never a wise move. You should marry someone because you love them, not because you feel obligated to. I know everyone wants the whole family business, but if it is hurting you, him, and the babe, it's probably best to move on. That being said, I am sure that are rare instances of high school relationships working out, but it just is not as normal as you think, and remember you are never the exception.

Now, what causes relationship failures at young ages? Well, the most obvious one is that you both are too immature to handle a relationship, let alone a baby. You don't truly love each other, as I doubt either of you know what love really is. Then there is always the 'he is too lazy/doesn't work enough' excuse. Some words for you. Get. A. Job. Why should the man solely have to support you and your child? Do you not feel any responsibility yourself to help provide? Or does 'providing' mean dropping the kid off with grandma, while you go waste all of his money? No. Then there is that fact that there are 'better men, who are willing to do better things for me and baby". Also false. A man looks better until you have lived with him for awhile, and the same problems guy 1 had arise. Do you know why? Because YOU are part of the problem as well. There, I said it. It takes two to cause a relationship failure. Everyone has faults, and the sooner you realize that, the better.

Essentially what I am trying to say is a very long version of this:

Nobody wants to hear your baby daddy drama. It's immature, selfish, and anybody with common sense knows that you are not telling the entire story; you are omitting parts that make you look bad. The relationship failed because of both of you. Get a job. I am so sick of young mothers saying 'he doesn't work enough, because he doesn't care about our family.' Are you working or spending? I work full-time and I go to school. Elliot and I have our needs met. I don't go out partying, buy new clothes for myself every week, eat steak every night, and other similar things. I care enough about Elliot to keep my mouth shut about his father, when he is around. No child should have to hear that. I am not saying you can't argue, but for god's sake, don't do it in front of your child, in public, or on a social networking site. Yet another reason you need to grow up, and were too immature to have a child in the first place.